Are fathers becoming passe? Some seem to think so.
Others of us, however, believe quite the contrary.
Not long ago, my 6 year old son Noah (pictured top left), had a Daddy's Day at school. On this day, all the Dads were to come for lunch and eat with their kids and hang out with them. I was a few minutes late arriving at the school and when I got there, the children had already been seated in the cafeteria with their Dads at the tables. I walked in and began looking for my son. I spotted him before he spotted me. He was looking for me too. He was sitting at the table, scanning the room, on the lookout for me. It was the look on his face as he searched anxiously for sign of his Dad that I haven't forgotten since: a look of worry and concern, maybe even the beginnings of fear, that his Dad was not going to be there for him, that maybe he had been abandoned. It was a look that told me that while this was perhaps just an inconvenient interruption of my workday for me, that for him it was a big frikking deal. It mattered to him big time. It made a difference to him if I was there or not. I waved to catch his attention as I strode forward to join him, like a giant through a crowd of elves. For a moment, all I thought was 'let me banish that look from his eyes right now'. When he saw me, his face lit up like the brightest strobe light you've ever seen (my son has a wonderful smile). He hollered 'Daddy' as I came into his view and instantly his demeanor changed from fearful and worried to happy and carefree. We had a wonderful time. But in that moment before he knew I was there, when he was 'looking for Daddy', I learned something about how very real and important my presence is to him.
Many times I have said: "I have the best dad in the world." And although I know countless others have made this statement, too - in my case, it's the truth.
With Father's Day soon approaching, I continue to thank my lucky stars about having my dad in my life. As far as I am concerned, dads are as unnecessary as food and oxygen!