Via Instapundit, I just read this sad and ignorant rant about feminism and motherhood.
Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit.
Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself? There’s no way those two things are the same. It’s hard for me to believe it’s not just verbally placating these people so they don’t get in trouble with the mommy bloggers.
Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones. We have baby showers and wedding parties as if it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These aren’t accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them. They are the most common thing, ever, in the history of the world. They are, by definition, average. And here’s the thing, why on earth are we settling for average?
Just for starters, Ms. Glass, "literally anyone" can not always be a mom. For instance - there is me. Due to an IUD 40 years ago, while I didn't use my life, I did lose all my reproductive organs. So - no babies for me. Adoption was an option but believe me, not the most "common and super easy" task out there. I imagine my friends who dealt with infertility and miscarriage would agree with me.
While you were busy considering vomiting about women having the right to choose, you didn't comment much about being a good mom. I can see that someone who appears to have no clue about what being a mom is all about wouldn't appreciate that being a good one is not a facile task. Yet, I can see from years of watching other women be good moms, I am well aware that it can be challenging. But, unlike being a teacher or attorney or nurse or CEO or any other sort of job - once you're a mom; that's it. No searching for another position, no "discovery of self." A good mom hunkers down and does her job - day in, year out.
I might add that if it weren't for all the good moms out there, the world would be in far worse shape than it is. It's moms who give us a sense of self, teach us to undertake a wealth of tasks - and excel at them. When others may have given up on us - it's the caring moms of the world who dust us off and help us face the world once again.
In large part, because I could not do "the most common thing, ever, in the history of the world" perhaps I have more appreciation of just how special and meaningful being a mom is. And, I hope that one day, you are able to open your eyes and your mind, Ms. Glass, and see what I know to be true.